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Talking With Kids
About Tough Issues
Improving Communications With Your Children

See: My Counseling page for more links

Parenting: Communication Tips for Parents

Communication Skills for Parents

How can I help my child communicate effectively?

Communicating

Guidelines For Good Communication With Children

Parent-Child Communication - Advocates for Youth

Communication and Your 6- to 12-Year-Old

Talking to Teens - How to Talk to Your Teen

The Right Way to Praise Your Kids

Tips for Parents: Positive Discipline for Gifted Children

Non Verbal Communication

Top Ten Nonverbal Communication Tips

Hoagies' Gifted: Nonverbal Learning Disorder

“Use non-verbal communication to SOFTEN hard-line position of others:S=Smile O=Open Posture F=Forward Lean T=Touch E=Eye Contact N=Nod.”

non-verbal_communication | Diigo

Changing minds and persuasion

My Body Language Page

 

Communication

 Communicating with Children

When You Are Tired of Yelling

Communication Skills

Three Components

Listening Skills

• Verbal Communication Skills

• Problem Solving or Conflict Resolution


Talking Skills

1. Be Brief

2. Be Specific

3. Describe the Situation

4. Give Information

5. Issue Gentle Reminders

6. Use “When, Then” Instead of “If, Then”

7. Use “I” Statements
Not “You” Statements


Three Components to “I” Messages

1. Describe the problem: “When you leave clothes on the floor…”

2. Describe the tangible effect: “When you leave clothes on the floor, I can trip over them…”

3. Describe the feeling: “When you leave clothes on the floor, I can trip over them and I am afraid of falling.”

Another Version of “I” Messages! “I feel (feeling) when (behavior)(situation or effect).

“I feel upset when you leave your clothes on the floor. It looks messy and someone can trip on them.”


Problem Solving
Conflict Resolution

1. Describe the situation from child’s point of view.

2. Describe your feelings and needs.

3. Restate the problem from both perspectives, and brainstorm together.

4. Decide on a suggestion you both are willing to follow through on.

5. Plan together how you will implement the solution.

6. Evaluate whether working or not. Make changes if necessary or start again.